Lust, Indifference and Hate

I picked up another book by the Dalai Lama.

The book is called How to Expand Love. I'm not overly impressed. It seems so very strained, so very labored. Like chill dude! Read some Hafiz.

However, the Dalai Lama did have some useful material. He says something about how you can't really love someone you feel lust for. My wife would probably disagree. She wants me to feel love and lust for her. I think the Dalai Lama lacks clarity on this point. He says lust is bad and interferes with Love, but he never says what lust is. Can I not feel lust for someone in a healthy, loving way?

Obviously the sinful state of hunger is gluttony. What is the appropriate and healthy state of lust? Is there such a thing?

But I do think that lust gets in my way. So there are some things I can do to curb it. I've been thinking of a plan. It's kind of like fasting to purify the body.

I'm not going to do this because of His Holiness the Dalia Lama. Nor even because of Der Fuhrer Pope. But just because I think I would like myself better if I had less lust.

Even if it was nothing more than a matter of etiquette.